Why Self-Discipline Is Overrated

If there is one trait that is valued in every society, it may well be self discipline. Teachers and parents alike value it in children, and you would be hard pressed to find anyone who doesn’t want to be more self disciplined in some area of their lives.

Self discipline is that ability to marshal one’s willpower to delay immediate gratification, and to persevere in order to accomplish things that are desirable.

In Psychology, of course, one can never win. Those who are undercontrolled are seen as impulsive and distractible. Those who are overcontrolled are seen as rigid, compulsive and joyless. The first is seen as more of a “problem.”

The funny thing is – on the VIA Test of Signature Strengths, almost NO ONE scores high on the strength of Self Regulation. Although we aspire to have more self discipline, it is universally one of the lowest strengths. Continue reading

How To Handle Stressful Events Without Overeating

Stressful events create anxiety. Stress related eating occurs when the urge to eat is triggered by anxiety. Your emotional brain takes over and you experience a strong desire to eat.

Anxiety and stress go together. Sometimes, it’s a build up of stressful events over time.

Sometimes, it’s one big event that causes you to lose your composure. It feels like it’s too much to handle. Your feelings may be so strong that you don’t know what to do, or how you will get through it. Continue reading

5 Ways To Stop Stress Eating and Build Resilience

Stress drains your ability to pick yourself up after life lets you down unless you build stress resilience.

Just as you take in nutritional food and transform it into energy, positive emotions transform into resiliency.

People who are resilient tend to be able to take things in stride, choosing positive emotions and behaviors in the face of stress, and are less likely to engage in stress eating. Continue reading