Stress Eating Is NOT The Problem

I can’t tell you how many posts I have read with statements like “I am gaining weight because I am stress eating!”

Many people seem to have an awareness that something is driving them to eat, and it’s easy to focus on that as the problem.

Stress eating itself is NOT the problem. It is whatever is driving you to turn to a drug, like food in the first place. When you are done eating the cookies, what drove you to the cookies in the first place is still there.

The major task to avoid stress eating and it’s accompanying vicious cycle of weight gain  is this – how do you face what you don’t want to face without food?

How do you accept what you don’t want to accept without numbing out the feelings, or simply distracting yourself with food . . . and then obsessing over why you are gaining weight?

Imagine being able to accept any feeling that comes along. Imagine not scaring yourself with your own thoughts, so much so that you go running off to the refrigerator to ease the pain, or at least not have to think about it for the brief moment of chocolate passion. So much so that you feel the need to go unconscious.

Imagine accepting your life as it is, embracing every chaotic moment that wasn’t supposed to be this way, celebrating every bit of imperfection that you find in everyday life. Fully inhabiting your life, as it is. Being with it, being in it. “Being with” every feeling, as you celebrate the gift of waking up every day.

Imagine accepting and loving your life as it is, instead of constantly searching and pining for what you think it should have been.

When you live in the present, there is no stress. Therefore there is no stress eating. Food doesn’t run your life, and your life doesn’t get organized around food and weight issues. You can actually focus on and enjoy what’s important.

Yes, you still may need to make some changes in your life. You may need to learn to tolerate those feelings that send you to the fridge. You may need to accept things in your life that you can’t control, aspects of your life that turned out differently than you thought.

But life is a lot sweeter when you actually stay awake for it . . .

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Psychologist, Master Certified Coach and Certified EFT Practitioner. She is one of the world’s leading experts in using Emotional Freedom Techniques to help people lose weight without dieting, stop binge eating, and reduce anxiety and stress. She is the author of 4 Books on Emotional Freedom Techniques, the EFT Tips Newsletter, the Binge Eating Teleseminar and the EFT Weight Loss CD. Carol has a thriving coaching practice and is passionate about helping others succeed.

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  2. Hi, I would like to say that the above article sums it all up for me. I have been trying to tell my friend the very same thing for years but she wont have it. I know I am anesthetising my self by eating cookies (or biscuits as we call them in the uk), cake, chocolate, sweets, crisps, chips, ice cream etc. I have been doing this for years and years and I am now in my 50s. I know I have been using food as a drug. There is no two ways about that, in fact the drug aspect of food as become more important than eating because I am truly physically hungry. Its true what you say though, how on earth do I face my negative feelings without turning to food, how do I accept what I don’t want to accept without eating ice cream and chocolate bars etc.

    Its a great article. I am going to have a closer look at your website when I have got a bit more time. I need help and I need it now!! Thanks


    • Thanks for your comment, Shirl. And the good news is – it’s not too late! You can learn to manage feelings without food. It’s just a skill that can be learned like any other skill. It may take you out of your comfort zone at first, but it’s worth it to break the addiction. So doable . . . it’s just that many people are afraid to try, so they keep blaming stress or other people, or the food itself. You have already taken the first step by recognizing the problem. Kudos!

  3. Thank you Carol for naming the root of the problem. Food is a drug and needs to be thought of like a drug. A drug that we can not live without. You can live without alcohol or cocaine but you would whither away without food.
    .-= Elizabeth´s last blog ..Ritual Burnings =-.

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