What Story Do You Tell Yourself?

eft_weight_loss_confidenceYou tell yourself a story inside your head every day.

Our stories are based on past experiences and the beliefs we form because of those experiences. We often create limitations in our minds that are usually untrue.

Our stories can play like a soundtrack in the back of our minds.

If you listen for that small, quiet voice, you’ll catch yourself. The story makes up a big part of who you tell yourself you are. And to a large extent, you play out the story in life.

  • Are you playing small in order to avoid conflict?
  • Are you withdrawing from relationships in order to avoid pain?
  • Is your story worn out and no longer relevant?
  • Is it causing you to feel bad about yourself? To limit yourself?

Your story will either empower you or limit you. If you tell yourself you “can’t” or you aren’t “_________ enough” (fill in the blank – smart, disciplined, strong, etc.), those are all versions of the same dis-empowering “I’m not enough” story.

Or you may tell yourself something about the task, like “it’s too hard.” Do you believe that losing weight is hard? Perhaps that is how you perceived it in the past. But if you continue to echo that story now, you make it a reality.

If the challenge you are facing is big enough, the “not enough” story will show up. That’s because you are venturing out of your comfort zone.

You can do some investigative work and ask yourself “Where did I learn that?” A memory may come to mind. But even if it doesn’t, it serves you to create a new story. (Note to self: you can use tapping to uncover and change old stories.)

One of my favorite stories that I *choose* to tell myself when I’m facing a challenge is this: “If other people can do it, then I can do it too.” This makes so much logical sense to me, that I don’t have any other choice but to keep moving forward 🙂

I don’t worry about “how” I’m going to do it. The “how” is generally revealed after I make the commitment.

You either use your stories to your advantage, or they limit you. If you tell yourself the right story, then you keep moving forward, no matter what. Yes, you may feel more vulnerable, but you will also feel more passionate, more loving and more alive…maybe even unstoppable.

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Psychologist, Master Certified Coach and Certified EFT Practitioner. She is one of the world’s leading experts in using Emotional Freedom Techniques to help people lose weight without dieting, stop binge eating, and reduce anxiety and stress. She is the author of 4 Books on Emotional Freedom Techniques, the EFT Tips Newsletter, the Binge Eating Teleseminar and the EFT Weight Loss CD. Carol has a thriving coaching practice and is passionate about helping others succeed.

2 thoughts on “What Story Do You Tell Yourself?

  1. Hi Carol! I love both your newsletter and your website!! I go to both of them often. Thank you for your good information and your great advice!!! It’s always greatly appreciated. When I read your blog today, I thought to myself WOW that’s just what I was doing today. I was thinking about how I can change my story, rewrite it in a way that would support my new beliefs. And then there you were, right there in my in box!!!! If only I trusted the Universe more!!! Ask and it is given, Seek and you shall find. Carol, you are truly a gift from God!!! Thank you for sharing yourself. Your knowledge, your wisdom, your insigbt and your perspective is much needed in this world!!!! xxxoooo, Diane

    • Diane, thanks so much for your comments and your kind words. It is such an honor and so EXCITING to be a part of your amazing transformation! I just love seeing you transform before my eyes. You are truly an inspiration. Can’t wait to see you again!

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